I think my mom is always waiting for me to develop the nurturing and maternal qualities and skills she possesses. Nobody knew I could cook until I lived on my own, even then, my parents may have been disappointed in how these traits manifest. Once, I came home for a visit and offered to make dinner for the family, cooking the meat separately in case of vegetarians — there are no vegetarians in my family.
Walking Beau the Dog today, I stopped at the corner of Second and Franklin Streets to grab to grab a bag from next to the city trash can — I realized I had run out and he is 100% likely to poop on the sidewalk when I don't have a bag handy — I fumbled for a moment with the bags and Beau tugged at the leash, when I turned toward him, he had just extricated himself from his harness and was about to dart into the street.
I threw myself down on the sidewalk to grab him, startling an older gentleman who asked if I was ok. A bit shaken, I replied that I was fine, that I just had to keep my dog from running into the street. I bruised my palm and scraped my knee, drawing blood. I don't even think there were any cars around. I must have looked mildly insane for dramatically snatching my dog, kneeling briefly on the sidewalk with him in my arms as I scolded, readjusted his harness and composed myself.
It reminded me of the story my mom told about leaping over a couch to keep me from putting a bobby pin in an electrical outlet when I was a toddler. Only it was my dog, probably in no real danger, just being a little jerk. Amy (Arts & Culture) says it doesn't count as maternal instinct if the recipient is a dog, but I'm still uncertain if I will ever be ready for teenagers, so I say this counts.





Comments (3)
Add commentI believe Amy is wrong.
I believe Amy is wrong. Maternal instinct manifests in many forms and doesn't always have to do with a child you carried in your womb. I feel like that's a selfish thing for a mother to say to someone who loves another being deeply, whether it's a dog, a friend's child, a nephew, etc.yet doesn't have child of her own. Maternal instinct is something innate regardless of whether or not you have had children, and what you did for Beau was the essence of it.
in my defense...
jnu81: I totally agree that you don't need to have your own child to feel maternal instincts. I have strong maternal feelings toward my sister's children, friends' kids and, at times, some of my adult friends. Personally, I wouldn't include my dog in this list (though I am very fond of him and would be crushed if I lost him) but I am not Melissa, and if that is the way she feels toward her dog, I can't criticize her for it! Beau is pretty cute after all.
In Amy's defense
Most everything I say is a bit tongue-in-cheek and she certainly doesn't doubt the love I have for my dog. And I don't doubt the love she has for her teenagers, even though they have to be a lot harder to deal with than a 13-lb. miniature pinscher.