In response to Bobbie Haffner's letter of Nov. 19, I would like to clear up some misconceptions I believe she has.
When she says that God created same-sex couples and he is "cool with it," I would just like to point out that we, as humans, are not defined by what we do. God does not love us for what we do, but for who we are, which is human. He gives us the free will to make choices and at times we take full advantage of this freedom of the will. But this is not the same as arguing that because God made us he loves everything we do. I won't get into my views on that in this letter; I just wish to guide the argument away from the error of equating our actions with our persons. I am not ultimately defined by what I do.
I would also like to warn people against the dichotomy that she seems to be setting up. The implications of her letter are that we either have to accept same-sex marriage or we are intolerant homophobes. I would just like to remind Ms. Haffner that it is possible to not only accept, but to love someone without approving of all of their activities. I know that my parents loved me and yet they did not approve of every single action that I have ever done. Much like I can accept a homosexual person and even love them for who they are (which once again is not defined by their actions), and at the same time disapprove of their actions and even feel that those actions are immoral.
I realize that this topic will bring out very heated argument and very deeply felt opinions, but I hope that we can avoid the mistake of equivocating our actions with who we are as people.