Death of a loved one is painful for all that have experienced it, whether the loss was a friend, child, spouse, parent or grandparent. This year I and many other community members have had to deal with the loss of three of my peers. The pain that was expressed by family and close friends was unbearable.
I'm sure all of you have heard the expression "sticks and stones may break bones, but words will never hurt." As I was growing up this seemed to be true, but as I got older I came to realize that it is the words that hurt most, whether they be many or few. Broken bones heal over a short period of time, but when words are spat at a person without sympathy they will be felt in your heart forever.
When a person passes away, sympathy should be shown. Awhile back a good friend of mine died, and people and articles said things that were hurtful and unnecessary. A death of a teen shouldn't be an opportunity to stereotype them, be it "all teens are alcoholics," or "teen-agers can't drive" or "teen-agers are careless." Accidents happen.
I'm not saying that people do not have the right to express their opinions. If I believed that, I wouldn't write this letter. I am simply saying that it should be done with care and thought, especially when dealing with death. You never know if that person's best friend is standing around the corner.
I would also like to take this opportunity to express my condolences to family and friends of my friends and peers, Brandon, Krista and Trav. Also to everyone else who has ever lost someone they loved.